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Unfriended in Real Life

Some friends aren’t worth keeping.

Your quality of life is marked by true friendships. What would life be like without them? But how many friends do you actually have? Sure, you may have hundreds of “friends” on social media. Most likely, you have hundreds of acquaintances you’d call friends. There are a few dozen people you’d consider true friends. And most likely, you have one or two close friends. With so few true friends, you better choose them wisely.

What makes a true friend? They’re loyal, kind, trustworthy, supportive, and dependable. A friend has your best interest at heart and is there when you need them. You don’t have to explain yourself, because your friend gets you.

As time goes on and you get to know someone, you may realize that someone isn’t your friend after all. In these cases, it may be in your best interest to end the relationship and move on. It can be hard to do this though. When facing loneliness, you may be blinded by toxic friendships and the harm a “friend” is causing you. Open your eyes. If a so-called friend has one or more of these traits, cut them loose and move along.

Holding on by a Thread

When around your friend, do you feel like you constantly have to walk on eggshells? Are you constantly worried that you’ll somehow offend or upset them? Do you worry that one wrong word or mistake will make them ditch you for someone else? Or maybe you feel like you have to act or look a certain way to earn their approval. If so, they’re not a true friend.

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.- Oprah Winfrey

Makes You Feel Insecure

A toxic friend makes you feel bad about yourself. When you’re around them—especially if you’re in a group of people—they make you feel anxious and insecure. One day they make fun of you in front of others, criticize you, and say hurtful comments. The next they act like you’re their best friend. You never know what you’ll get, and it stresses you out.

One-Sided

Does your relationship feel one-sided? Like they only want to spend time with you when they have nothing better to do or when they’re lonely or bored? Do they only call when it’s convenient for them? When you reach out, are they always unavailable? Maybe you feel used or like the conversations are always about them. That’s because the conversations are always about them.

Feels Like a Competition

A little friendly competition isn’t a bad thing. But when your friend turns everything into a competition, take it as a bad sign. Do they seem jealous when good things happen to you while bragging about all the good things that happen to them? Do they try to copy what you do, but take it to the next level? If so, they may not be a true friend.

Plays the Victim

One example of a bad friend is someone who is always playing the victim. Everything is about them and they frequently complain about all the bad things they’re going through. Nothing is ever their fault and they blame others for the mess they’re in. They seem extra needy for attention and sympathy. You feel drained after spending time with them.

A Lack of Trust

When you confide in someone who betrays your trust over and over, it’s time to move on. What’s friendship without trust? You need a friend you can depend on, who keeps their word, who does what they say they will do. Beware of people who gossip to you. They’re more likely to gossip about you as well.

Brings out the Worst

If your worst traits come out when you’re around a certain person, they shouldn’t be a close friend. Maybe you’re trying to impress them, fit in, or make them laugh. Whatever your motive, it’s easy to make bad choices and hurt others or yourself in a relationship like this. Cut them out of your life. Instead, surround yourself with people who make you want to be a better person.